War on Christmas??

A War on Christmas??

I originally wrote a piece on this a couple of weeks ago, but preempted it to honor Mrs. K. In doing a quick Google search, it's starting to look like the "War on Christmas" media play is fizzling out. Please tell me if I'm wrong! Whether or not, here are my thoughts/rants. Read if you want to, but I'll guess you've heard it said better than this!:

This is one of the more ridiculous non-issues that has hit the media in some time. At best, it's a distraction from the real issues that, even before this took any prominence, have not received enough play in the press. At worst, it's a deliberate campaign to widen divisions in our nation that have become all too prominent over the last five years. [I've also theorized since then that the Religious Right was test driving the WoC as this election year's Gay Marriage lightning rod.]

There is no war on Christmas. When one doesn't know the religion of the person, saying "Happy Holidays" is a sensitive way to express yourself. In business, it's safest not to assume that every customer will be a Christian. As to a "Holiday tree," to a non-Christian there's no such thing. A Christmas tree is a Christmas tree. It's not a Holiday tree, it's not a Chanuka Bush. Christmas has claimed that symbol, and no rational non-Christian is vying for it. (Druids, folks following old Teutonic traditions, and other former claimants of the tree are, of course, the exceptions)

Now having said that, I am not insulted when someone says "Merry Christmas" to me. Just a little disappointed. It makes me feel better when someone says or writes "Happy Holidays" or "Seasons Greetings". (Of course, hearing "Happy Chanuka!" makes me feel great! As great as hearing "Happy New Year" at Rosh Hashona, and "Happy Passover" at Passover time.)

You would have to blind and deaf not to be bombarded with Christmas symbols during this time of year. Every year it gets more overwhelming for non-Christians. This creates a challenge for non-Christian parents, but not the biggest challenge we face!! All-in-all, I'm not complaining, nor demanding that Christmas be toned down -- to each their own! And, I do love enjoying the holiday with my dear friends. (And, I must admit, I do love catching the classic Christmas movies: Holiday Inn, A Christmas Carol (in almost all of its manifestations -- Alistair Sim, George C. Scott, Scrooge, Miracle on 34th Street, etc. And, of course, classic Christmas TV: The Twilight Zone's "Night of the Meek" for one -- Art Carney at his best!)

But don't tell me that there's a war on Christmas!!

PS -- This just popped into my Google news: http://edition.cnn.com/2005/US/12/09/paris.christmas.ap/ In my opinion, the neighbors have a lot more than Christmas to be worried about!!

PPS -- a Movie sidenote -- I almost didn't include Holiday Inn as a Christmas movie. IMHO this one is a bit tougher to classify as such. Yes, it has the Irving Berlin (nice Jewish boy) classic, "White Christmas". But it really is just an old fashioned movie musical. Very "American" in its celebration of holidays. Christmas does not play a central role in the movie, as it does in the other movies. Still, one rarely sees the movie on TV outside of the Christmas season, so I stand by my inclusion in the list above. If labeling it a "Christmas" movie ensures that it will be played at least once a year, then that's OK with me!! Same for Desk Set with Tracy & Hepburn.

PPPS -- Wishing all a Happy and Healthy Holiday Season!!

Our Eleanor

Our Eleanor

Sounds a bit presumptuous to say that, horning in on the K family like that. But this truly magnificent lady certainly made me and us feel like we were hers, and she was ours.

Eleanor will be missed by anyone who ever met her. Having known her since age four or so and having been a member of her hideaway for more than 35 years, there are so many warm memories. They all blend together, but some come out in clarity:

"Guys, Cool it" Generally heard from the top of the basement stairs. Most of the time due to the lateness of the hour and an attempt by Jim to sleep before waking up for an early morning shift. I have now had the chance to say similar things to my own teenage son when his friends are over.

Sitting with Mrs. K in the kitchen during a party, or in the living room, just hanging out. The conversation was always interesting. And Eleanor always made you feel that you mattered, and were yourself interesting and worthy of respect.

Her laugh.

There are more, of course. But I am a poor story-teller. And my memory blends too much together. But the feelings are there. Eleanor was warm, inspirational, intelligent, well-read, loving to her family and to those who felt lucky enough to feel that we were in her flock.

May she find peace in the afterlife, reunited with those that she loved who have also passed on. And may she watch over her Jim, Bill, Susan, Leah, Regan; and all those who love her and always will.

Zich-ro-nah' Lih-ve-rah-chah' -- Her memory is a blessing